A mom on TikTok has started a debate about whether it’s acceptable to leave estranged children out of your will. “With so many of them equating money or what we provided with bribery or our substitution for love as opposed to just love, what makes you think that their ungratefulness yesterday or today would be any different tomorrow?” she asked in the controversial video.
Her controversial take has garnered more than a thousand comments, with many people wanting to know more about what down between her and her kids to prompt this situation.
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'What have you done with your ungrateful adult children regarding your will?' the mom asked on TikTok.
The TikTok creator, who goes by Doormat Mom on the social media platform, has created several videos about her estranged adult children. In a recent video, she asked her followers, “What have you done with your ungrateful adult children regarding your will?” The question is especially relevant for those who have estranged adult children, the mom noted.
She suggested that parents with “ungrateful” adult children (especially those who are estranged) don’t owe their children any money. “Why should you leave them anything at all?” she asked in the video. “I’d like to hear your thoughts.”
People wanted to hear her estranged adult children's side of the story.
Of course, there are two sides to every story. Understandably, before weighing in on whether Doormat Mom was being reasonable, many TikTokers said they’d like to hear why the mom’s estranged adult children decided to cut off communication with her.
“I wanna hear from the kids,” one person responded, adding that “choosing to not speak to your parents is something none of us want to do. It’s something that has to be done to respect ourselves.”
“What I’d like to hear is your childrens’ side of this story,” another person commented.
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Some concluded that the mom's estranged adult children don't want her money.
Even without hearing the adult children’s stories, some TikTok users made up their minds. “If they’ve distanced themselves, odds are they don’t want anything to do with you,” one person wrote.
A common belief among those who commented on the video was that Doormat Mom’s children likely aren’t interested in her money anyway. “they dont want your stuff,” a TikTok user commented on the video. “they wanted your love when [it] mattered.”
Others defended the mom.
Although some people who watched the TikTok assumed there must be a good reason why her children decided they wanted nothing to do with her, others agreed with what she had to say. One person who has an estranged daughter said, “I respect her wishes to not have any contact & I just assume that means when I leave this earth as well.”
Another person shared, “our parents have the right to do whatever they want with the money they earned” regardless of whether their children are “ungrateful.”
One parent opened up about their decision to cut their daughter out of an inheritance. “I have done so much for her and been there for her through so much but I’m done,” the person wrote. “I need to love myself now.”
Do parents and children owe each other anything?
Doormat Mom’s video about inheritance got a lot of people talking, especially when it comes to them no longer having a relationship with each other. In another video, the TikToker initiated a discussion about whether children owe their parents anything. Are children obligated to maintain a relationship with their parents? Do they owe their parents love?
In her video, she brought up a common argument — one that she believes is “ignorant.” “There is great ignorance in believing that you don’t owe your parents anything because you didn’t ask to be born,” she said in the clip.
Some people agreed with the mom’s controversial take, with one person pointing out that going “no Contact has become 💯 a trend.” Many others disagreed with the mom, however, and told her that children don’t owe their parents anything.
“As a paren’t of 3 kids-my kids owe me NOTHING,” one person commented. “They will owe their kids everything.” Another person wrote, “Love is earned not owed.”
