Blending families can be a challenge. It’s hard for some adults to allow another person to be a parent to their child, even if they love them enough to be in a relationship. This can put a strain on the couple. One man took to social media to share that his fiancée pointedly told him he wasn’t her daughter’s father. So when she needed help, he reminded her of her words.
While the man questioned his decision to not help, he was still worried he went too far. But people reminded him that what his fiancée said was going to impact their relationship.
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The man was shocked by his fiancée’s words.
The man sought advice from Reddit’s famed AITA community to address his dilemma. He explained that he has a 6-year-old son, and his fiancée has an 11-year-old daughter. They have been together for about four years. He claimed that until this most recent interaction “we’ve never had any issues regarding the children.”
He explained that the daughter was invited to a camping trip for a friend’s birthday, where they would be doing activities like kayaking. When the girl decided to wear a dress, the man cautioned against it.
“She seemed offended and said her daughter could wear whatever she liked and that it wasn’t a man’s place to judge,” he wrote. “I tried to clarify what I meant, but she cut me off, saying, ‘She’s my daughter, not yours.'”
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Despite her words, she still expected his help.
After the confrontation, the man took his son out for a pre-planned event. While out, his fiancée called, telling him that the girl wasn’t allowed to ride the bus for the birthday because of her clothing.
“My fiancée then asked if I could leave the match early to drive her daughter to the activity centre. I replied, ‘Why should I? She’s not my daughter, and I’m here with my son,'” the man wrote. He continued, saying he “wasn’t being spiteful,” and he felt bad for the girl, who he referred to as his “step-daughter.” He added that it would be a lot of travel, and he didn’t want to disappoint his son.
As for him and his fiancée, he wrote “Neither of us are talking now.”
Some people had questions about the girl’s outfit choice.
“Who sends à girl KAYAKING in a dress????” one person asked.
“WTF kayaking in a f’$$#kin dress!” another exclaimed. “Dude, she needs therapy!”
Someone else commented: “WTF. Why is she dressing an 11 year old? At that age kiddo should be able to dress herself.”
Most people believed that he did nothing wrong.
“She can’t be a snarky person and still expect you to help… she made her choice and choices have consequences,” one person wrote. “This relationship isn’t lasting much longer lol. And good she sounds like a red flag.”
“Major red flag in a potential partner that they will create a problem, refuse to let you help them prevent it and then demand you fix it instead of them,” another person commented.
“Your wife told you to your face how things work in your household,” someone else noted. “She is not the mother of your child and you are not the father to her child. Yours isn’t mine just when you need help. Just question if you really want to get married to someone who very clearly has a mindset.”
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