It would take a big person to forgive someone who cheated on them, but imagine how furious one woman was after she learned her husband had been cheating on her for three years, she forgave him, and then he went back to his mistress. Yeesh, what a mess. Now pregnant and heartbroken, the woman is wondering what she should do about her pregnancy. She wants to keep the baby, but her soon-to-be ex-husband is trying to get her to terminate it.
The mom is pregnant with her third child — and to say this pregnancy has been stressful would be putting it lightly.
“Right around the time baby was conceived, I found out that my Soon-to-be-ex-husband went back to his affair partner, after I had forgiven him for a THREE YEAR affair,” the mom wrote in a post on Reddit. “That was my first mistake. Anyway, long story short, we’re separated.”
Whatever her feelings for her husband might be, the mom added that she feels “connected to this baby.”
“I want it. I don’t care whether my husband and I are together. I know I can be a good single mom. I’m financially stable. I work from home,” she explained.
The only problem is that her ex really doesn’t want her to keep it.
“He’s trying to force an abortion on me. He’s being nasty and honestly probably verbally abusive,” she added.
Her ex told her she was being “selfish” and accused her of “destroying” his life and the lives of their two older kids.
He told her that this new baby would take attention away from their older children. And unfortunately, some people in the mom’s life agree that this is a bad move.
“My best friend is trying to convince me this is a mistake even though I told her my mind is made [up],” she wrote. “My family is in Europe, and not supportive either. Hell, even my therapist couldn’t hide her surprise when I told her I wanted to keep the baby.
“Basically, it’s me and baby against the world,” she explained. “I’m 9 weeks. I want this baby but feel more alone than I’ve ever been. Am I making a mistake?”
Most people agreed: It's her body, her choice.
"People who shouldn't have abortions: people who don't want them. Sounds like you're on the list. It's your baby and your body, and to hell with everyone else," wrote one commenter.
"I stopped reading when I read 'I feel connected to this baby. I want it.' I think you’ve answered your own question," another commenter wrote.
"You don’t want an abortion end of discussion anyone who disagrees with your decision is not on your side," a third commenter agreed. "You want this baby so have your baby and if the people who wanted you to abort remove them from your life."
But a few people thought she should reconsider.
"It sounds like you want to keep it. But if you feel unsure is there any impartial pregnancy counselling near you or a helpline you could call? I think talking it through with someone who doesn’t have an opinion either way will help," one commenter suggested.
"Very unpopular opinion, I very much believe in the 'your body your choice' thing but if literally everyone around you, who actually KNOWS the situation especially in most of its entirety are all telling you something you might want to consider…" another commenter argued, adding this:
"Who knows maybe it'll turn out too much like him and you resent the child, this child I promise you will not be your saving grace for the relationship (whether you realize that's what your doing or not) actually think LONG LONG term, yeah it's nice to be able to afford to take care of it, but genuinely think of possible outcomes that might become bigger problems down the line. No one can actually tell you to keep it or not, just keep an open mind to how you or your child will feel."
In a second post, the mom shared that she’s decided to keep the baby.
“There are many single moms out there who rock it, I know I can do it too,” she wrote in her update. “I was too connected to this baby to let go, despite the not ideal circumstances.”
Coincidentally, the mom wrote that she’d been having terrible morning sickness throughout her pregnancy, “and my symptoms stopped literally the day after I decided to keep baby (9 weeks),” she wrote. “It was scary, not gonna lie, BUT I had an ultrasound today and not only is baby doing great, but my subchorionic hemorrhage is also gone,” she added.
“I guess I’ll be sticking around until baby is born!” she continued. “Thanks again, even though you’re all strangers to me. I felt very supported and comforted in my decision to keep this baby I wanted so badly.”
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