It can be hard when your hopes and dreams feel like they’re never going to come true. It can be even more stressful when you feel like you’re all out of options to make them a reality. This holds true for everything from wanting to reach a new level in your career, trying get a perfect score on your favorite game, or even expanding your family.
That’s a situation that one woman found herself in. She desperately wants to get pregnant and have a baby, but she’s struggling. And in her relentless pursuit, she’s frustrating people around her, including her twin sister.
The twin sister took to Reddit to get advice on how to handle her sister who is 'obsessed' with getting pregnant.
Posting to Reddit’s AITA community, the original poster explained her sister’s actions and why they’re getting on her last nerve.
“My and my twin sister (F36) have both fertility problems, and been unable to conceive,” OP shared. “Well, I only tried once, and then gave up on the idea, that was many years ago, had been divorced, married again, and I had plenty of chances to pregnant by accident, and never happened.”
She’s fine with her life now, and she’s happy. But her twin sister isn’t.
“My sister on the other hand, has been obsessed with being a mom ever since she got married at 20yo, and never gave up,” OP explained.
“She already tried every possible way to get pregnant known to science, then got pregnant, then had a miscarriage, and tried again,” she shared. A few years later, the same thing happened.
“Some years passed, then got pregnant again, then miscarried again, then she tried again, and nothing,” OP shared.
OP explained that her sister has been through a lot in the time of trying to grow her family.
“This roller coaster already cost her 2 marriages, and countless other possible partners to run away,” OP wrote.
But things escalated recently. “This weekend, we were visiting my mom, and we started talking about one of our cousin's new baby, sis started ranted and getting emotional about how easy it is for some people to get pregnant,” OP wrote, adding that the baby they visited “was an accident, but it is very loved.”
She wasn’t interested in having an emotional conversation through.
“I was just trying to enjoy some food, but her emotional ranting was freaking me out,” OP admitted. “Then I told her that if she wants a baby so much, why doesn't she just go and adopt one? Could have done that a long ago.”
The comment really upset her sister; OP explained.
“My sister got quiet, then started crying, and went straight to the bathroom, she was screaming and mumbling unintelligible things inside, and gave no signs to leave anytime soon, then I went to the door,” OP explained.
“My mom stopped me and told me to go and apologize, I asked Why? What is wrong with adopting? My mom told me to stop being ridiculous, that suggesting adoption is insulting to a woman.”
OP wasn’t sure what to do with that. “I just left, and neither of them has talked to me even since that day,” she wrote. “My husband said that I was being insensitive, but also said that my sis is not mentally well, and I should just ignore her.”
That’s when OP turned it over to Reddit, hoping to get advice.
“Sis doesn't need to adopt, Sis needs therapy to deal with her issues because if she adopts now, she's too unstable to take care of a baby,” one person replied.
“You're both infertile, so it's not like you don't understand to some degree what she's going through,” another person wrote. “It can be exhausting talking about and watching someone go through the same thing over and over again. Your comment wasn't wrong or inappropriate. If being a mother is what she wanted, she could adopt.”
“No one has ever brought up the idea of adoption to your sister in 16 years?” someone else questioned. “Why would suggesting adoption be insulting in the first place? This is quite bizarre. I guess you could have said it in a more compassionate manner.”
“It was a reasonable suggestion but not a useful one,” another suggested. “I’m pretty sure she’s thought of that before. You are make light of a clearly deep personal struggle for her, because you don’t feel the same.”
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