Gender reveals are an important part of pregnancy for many couples. They can’t wait to find out if they’re having a boy or a girl, and lots of parents throw parties to share the news. We’ve seen plenty of over-the-top and elaborate reveals and equally as many simple celebrations.
Recently, an expectant mom tapped her amateur baker brother to create her gender reveal cake. Things seemed great until they weren’t. The baker went to Reddit’s AITA forum to ask if he acted in bad taste.
According to the original poster, he’s a hobby baker. He explained, “I’m actually pretty good at it, like I get paid under the table for weddings and baby showers, kind of good.”
He offered to bake a cake for his sister’s gender reveal. It would be a surprise to everyone, including the expectant parents, so a third party got involved. That person was tasked with sending OP the baby’s gender before the party, but it never happened.
“Deadline comes, and I still have no gender. So I make the cake. It’s grey inside. Grey outside. Just full on cement vibes. I even added little fondant clouds for effect. It still tasted great, but visually? Grim as hell,” he wrote. “The reveal day comes, they cut into it, and my sister looks p—ed. Her husband is confused. People start murmuring. Then she pulls me aside like, ‘Why would you make it grey? That’s so passive-aggressive.'”
OP’s mom said he totally embarrassed his sister and never should have pulled such a stunt. So he asked Redditors what they thought. It didn’t go quite the way he anticipated.
“YTA If this is real. You’re speaking like you have no autonomy here. Obviously it was not handled, and you’re the one making the cake,” one Redditor wrote. “Don’t be so helpless. And making it grey was your solution? Do you have an issue with your sister or something lol.”
OP posted a follow-up, explaining, “I actually did follow up – asked her a couple days before the reveal if the info had been sent, and she just said something like ‘yeah, someone’s taking care of it.’ I figured it was handled. I didn’t want to pester her since she seemed chill about it at the time.”
His clarification didn’t seem to matter. People thought he definitely acted like a jerk.
“Why couldn’t you have made it yellow and baby themed or something? It seems pretty vindictive to make the cake a ‘grim cement vibes’ for an important event where you’d be serving many more people besides your air headed sister,” someone commented. “I understand you were frustrated but d—, that’s all anyone is going to remember from that event now which was kinda YTA.”
“Asking ‘has it been sent’ and her answering ‘yeah someone’s taking care of it’ is so clearly not sufficient. Any normal person would then follow up with ‘oh BECAUSE I DONT HAVE IT,'” someone else wrote. “Your sister thought someone took care of it and literally nothing you said tipped her off that that wasn’t the case. Why would you go through the effort of making a grey cake instead of calling? YTA if this is even real.”
