My Dying Fiancé’s Parents Gifted Us a Romantic Honeymoon & Now They Want To Come Along

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When couples plan their weddings, a honeymoon traditionally follows. It is a great chance for the newlyweds to get away and unwind after what is often a busy and overwhelming time. They are also normally romantic trips where the couple spends time alone. But what if your situation isn't traditional?

A woman posted in Reddit's AITA forum about her upcoming wedding and honeymoon and a unique situation. Her fiancé was never close to his family growing up, but he was recently diagnosed with a terminal illness that has brought them closer together. His parents gifted him and his bride-to-be a generous honeymoon trip, but they plan to go with the newlyweds. Is the bride an a–hole for wanting to take the trip but leave her in-laws at the airport?

The groom's parents have never been around.

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The original poster explained in her Reddit post that she and her fiancé met in college and have been dating for two years. She is 28, and he is 27, and they recently decided to get married. Throughout their relationship, OP's fiancé’s family has never been close to him, but things have shifted after a recent change in his health.

"In the two years we have been dating I have only met his parents like 3 times. That doesn't bother me, like I said, he has a lot of resentment due to his upbringing and just doesn't particularly like spending much time with them. Nothing bad happened to him on their part but outside of his basic needs being taken care of there was little emotional support," she wrote.

"My fiancé was given a terminal diagnosis a few months ago with a two year life expectancy. Treatments are not an option so we are just living life to the fullest. After he learned of his illness he and his family have gotten a bit closer in that they see each other more often."

The family wants the couple to have a nice honeymoon.

OP wrote that her fiancé’s family is wealthy and gifted them a trip to Mexico for their honeymoon. The couple wanted a delayed honeymoon, and the in-laws booked a trip for June, during their son's birthday. But the trip is not just for the couple. His parents decided they wanted to be with their son on his last birthday, so the in-laws and his siblings are going along, too.

"They CHOSE to make the trip during his birthday so they had the excuse to join in. When they told us that they were also coming on the trip, I said that was a little strange. Now they are mad at me for not understanding how important it is for them to spend my fiances birthday with him. The entire family thinks that I am wrong for being upset about this. His parents have said I will barely even see them so I shouldn't be upset. But we are all staying at the same resort, with rooms right next to each other. So, AITA for telling my in laws it's weird that they are coming on my honeymoon with us?" OP asked.

A lot of Redditors feel like OP and her husband deserve this trip.

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It is a sad situation, but the couple is still entitled to their romantic getaway, right? And if OP's in-laws want to give that gift, some Redditors feel like they need to let them be. A lot of people think the in-laws needed to move things around.

"Nta have them move it or have an early birthday for them…," someone suggested. "Tell them its creepy as f that they want to be with you on your honeymoon… Op this is creepy your fiancee needs to stand up to them remind him of his soon to be vows to love honor cherish protect to LEAVE his mother and father and CLEAVE to his wife.. Not honor and charish his parents leave his his wife and cleave to his parents."

Another person agreed: "NTA. They are weird for doing this. Can you all just treat this as a family vacation and schedule and pay for a honeymoon for yourselves separately?"

Another comment reads: "NTA. It's hard, you're all wanting to spend time with someone you love. You're his chosen partner and you are the primary person in his life over the past 2 years, but remember they were there for a long time before that. If your partner is cool with accepting the gift and doesn't want to fight before his passing, don't make any issue out of this at all. Make it the funnest, most anticipated holiday you can. Let him enjoy as much of his time left as possible. And, like others say, you can have your own separate honeymoon before or after if you like."

But a few don't like OP's style.

Some feel OP should have let this one alone. Her fiancé’s family is gifting this trip, and she should be grateful.

"Yta, if your husband doesn't care to change it you shouldn't be making comments," one person wrote. "It's his birthday and he has such little time. I understand why you would like a solo trip but given the circumstances, it isn't weird for them to join. Also, it comes off entitled that you expect 2 free trips, you keep saying money isn't a problem for them and it puts a bad taste in my mouth. Why wouldn't you just plan a honeymoon that you two pay for yourselves and go alone after the free trip? Or use your own money to extend the trip for after they leave."

Someone else wrote: "Yta. they're gifting the trip to you, you don't really have the space to complain about it. if it's that big of an issue for you, book your honeymoon yourself."

OP and her husband deserve to enjoy their time.

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The situation is heartbreaking for everyone, but most Redditors agree that OP and her fiancé should be able to spend the rest of their lives together the way that they want to. His parents need to have their time, too, but one person made an excellent point. OP really needs to focus on her fiancé.

"Support your fiancé if he needs to put his foot down," one person suggested. "If his family acts up, tell them to take their handout and shove it where it fits and take a honeymoon you guys can reasonably afford and enjoy. Focus on his peace and happiness right now. It's all about what he wants right now."