Do you feel like your family drama rivals an episode of The Kardashians? Are there uncomfortable topics at every holiday table? Well, chances are, your relatives don’t drive you quite as crazy as this unfortunate Redditor.
Taking to the infamous Am I The A–hole subreddit, a woman pondered whether she is the said a–hole after not inviting her sister “Sam” to her pregnancy announcement party. Why would she purposefully exclude Sam from such a momentous occasion? Grab your cup of tea and get ready to bless this mess.
The Redditor was married to Dan, who is now her ex-husband.
Things between the Redditor and Dan went south when she found out he was having an affair. Was the other woman a co-worker? Nope. A longtime friend? Not even. The homewrecker was none other than Sam, the Redditor’s sister. Yikes. Sam and Dan later ended up getting married. “Obviously I wasn't invited” to the wedding, wrote the original poster.
Needless to say, things are "awkward" in the family.
These days, it seems like the OP keeps her distance from Sam and Dan — which is probably for the best. In the family, “we no longer talk about it,” she writes, presumably to keep some kind of peace. For her part, the OP “usually just [avoids] the two of them where possible.”
Life goes on, and new life is created.
But drama never goes away. A few years after Sam and Dan hooked up, the OP found new love and remarried. The couple is now pregnant, and she decided to host a small group of family and friends to share the happy news. A select few close family members were invited — except Sam and Dan, naturally.
Sam got in her feelings about being excluded from the pregnancy party.
There’s nerve, and then there’s nerve. When Sam learned about the gathering, she sent her sister a “strongly worded text (to put it nicely),” calling it “horrible” to be excluded from a family milestone moment, and reminded the OP that, like it or not, the baby was “going to be her niece/nephew anyway.”
Are you cringing yet?
OK, yes, sure, Sam will be an aunt to the new baby. But the audacity of Sam to make a case out of this when she’s the reason that she and her sister no longer have a relationship? This is beyond uncomfortable for everyone involved, especially once their mother decided to take Sam’s side. Now, the OP feels like the a–hole in the situation.
Commenters almost universally agreed that she is NOT the a--hole.
The response from the Reddit community was nearly unanimous: Not only was the Redditor not the a–hole, Sam is the real a–hole in the situation.
“I would’ve told her she’s not part of my family ever since she f—– my husband,” wrote one commenter. Many others shared that sentiment, reminding her that “you do not need toxic people in your life” and that it is “not for your mother or anyone else to tell you how you should be reacting or even to request your sister's presence in any aspect of your life.”
What do you think? Do you agree with the Reddit community? Is Sam the actual a–hole here? All signs are pointing to yes.
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