When you’re in the early stages of a physically intimate relationship, it can be hard to keep your hands off your partner — especially if it’s your first sexual relationship. The “honeymoon period” of a relationship is usually characterized by excitement, passion, and intensity. Romance, intimacy, and chemistry may feel more powerful than in later stages of a relationship. And for “virgin couples,” the intensity can be extreme.
A lot of people who talk about the honeymoon period of their relationship reference how much physical intimacy they experience during this time. Someone on Reddit asked, “Virgin couples here, how much sex happened during honeymoon period and how was it?” Here’s what people had to say:
People who had sex all the time:
“I was a virgin when I started dating my now-fiancé. During the honeymoon period, we had sex all the time. We couldn’t keep our hands off each other. Sometimes, it was multiple times a day. It was intense because of the hunger we felt for each other. We were still learning each other’s preferences and experimenting so it wasn’t necessarily mind-blowing all the time. The frequency wanes off the longer you’re together. Not that I’m complaining. The sex is way better now than it was during the honeymoon period.” –CrazyLadyonReddit
“At the beginning we were going at it 4+ times a day. Two years in now it’s about 2 times a day.” –New_Seesaw4717
“We went at it every day for like 4 years, now its just a few times a week but we are much busier than we used to be lol. Being an adult interferes with the fun stuff sometimes 😭” –socialcluelessness
“Our honeymoon period started after we got a place we could live together, from the first time to then, it was 1x a month when we could rent something out. But oh boy when the honeymoon started, I don’t even remember how much! Just that it was great and OFTEN. My dude got tired 😆 We were thankfully very compatible and I’m not ashamed to say we shared the best first time.” –CrnoCapor
“We had arranged marriage but after looks and agreement of marriage, we used to secretly meet and have sex. When it’s honeymoon, it’s definitely wild. First few days, daily more than 2 times.” –Shalini00009999
“I think we set a record for the most consecutive days, most times in a single day for the first 4 months we were married and the sex was amazing. We were both raised Catholic and had waited for each other a long time.” –Artistic-Can4318
“We waited a year to have sex, mostly because of my insecurities, and once we started we did it every time we had an opportunity. Which was difficult being teenagers who still lived at home, but we were able to do it multiple times a week, and then twice a day once we moved into our own place.” –ParticularBrush8162
People who didn’t have sex all the time:
“My husband and I were both virgins and had sex for the first time on our honeymoon. It was pretty terrible sex and took us a weeks to figure things out. Even then, I’d say I had lower libido the first few years we were married. I didn’t orgasm until probably 5 years in. Then I started enjoying sex a lot more.” –BlueBonnet1205
“Barely any, it was horrible, hurt so bad. I had no idea what was going on and 2 years later I figured I have vaginismus. Three years now and it has gotten better but still not where I want be 🥲 we go months sometimes.” –towelheadedmermaid
“We’ve been together for 3 years. It took a few months before we started doing it. It took about another 3 months to start being able to enjoy it properly. Depending on how much we’re able to see each other it can vary from once every 10-14 days to 4-5 times a week. Our schedules are pretty packed as full time students in engineering and law.” –Duckman3D5
“My partner and I are intimate but nothing penetrative yet. I have a lot of fear around pain and he’s completely supportive and just likes being close to me. Sexually our libidos aren’t the highest so sexual stuff could be a couple times a month! But we’re physically affectionate and intimate in nonsexual ways ALL the time. It’s whatever works for you and your partner! Sharing my experience because I’ve worried if we’re “normal” for not being sexual very often. NORMAL is whatever you and your partner decide is your normal!” –Welshcake99
No pressure, it’s all normal!
The honest truth is that there’s no “normal” way to be physically intimate during they honeymoon period. Whether you have sex multiple times a day or don’t have sex at all, you can still be emotionally intimate with your partner. Do whatever feels comfortable for your relationship.
