When I was 25 years old, I started dating my now-husband. We’ve been together going on eight years and have a 4-year-old daughter and another baby on the way. We are lucky to have an incredible and loving relationship. Every day is different and full of fun and laughter, which is the key to our happy relationship. And we also happen to have an amazing, albeit infrequent, sex life.
Let me explain. My husband is 23 years old than I am. Since he is older, and not a young man in his 20s (or heck, even 30s) who constantly has sex on his mind, we can happily go months without having sex. But let me tell you, when we do have sex … it’s mind blowing. It’s Earth-shattering. It’s eyes fluttering in the back of your head and forgetting your name good.
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Yes, it’s that good.
Do I feel it has to do with my husband’s age? Honestly, yes, I do.
For one thing, it was with my now husband that I had my first (of many) orgasm. Having sex with my husband is amazing. We have sex every time as though it’s the first time we’re in bed together. It’s always exciting and electric, like the first time you meet someone.
I feel that sex with my older husband clearly has its perks.
For one thing, as I mentioned, he’s not a young horny man who has sex on his brain 24/7. This could of course be due to his age since he’s clearly lived relatively long and experienced life and quite frankly, a man’s libido does slow down a bit as he ages.
Another perk, certainly for me, is he is a not a selfish lover where it’s all about him, which many of us know too well, can happen with young men. My husband isn’t in bed just for himself, but to make me happy and satisfied as well. Of course, it’s the same on my end.
For everyone, it’s a win-win situation.
Perhaps my husband is also so secure in himself since he’s been around the block. This makes him such a wonderful partner — in and out of the bedroom.
For us specifically, having sex is not just a physical thing, but a mental moment as well. It’s a time to reconnect on an intimate and personal level. We look into each other’s eyes and hold each other close, since we truly want to feel one another. We’re not having sex just to have sex and climax, but rather to connect with one on another on a deeper level. I feel a lot of this is due to my husband being so much older. Why? Maybe because no doubt my husband has been with plenty of other women where I’m sure it’s just been about sex. But that’s not the case here. We’re still in love eight years later and that makes the sex even better.
My husband's not in a rush to climax quickly and he’s not ever up for a quickie just to satisfy the urge, but rather, when we’re in bed together, we have long sessions of making love.
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We also don’t feel the need to prove anything.
We’re not that couple that has sex multiple times a week or even a month. We have sex when we feel like it. It’s not about quantity, but quality. This, once again, I feel is due to my husband's age since he has nothing to prove to anyone. He’s an older man and proud of it.
I have been with younger men (pre-husband, of course) and the truth is, I’ve never had a better partner in bed. Could it just be coincidence? Maybe, maybe not. But all I know is what I have right now. And my husband, who is proudly 23 years older than I am, is absolutely the best romantic partner I have ever had.
