One woman is quickly realizing her perfect anniversary gift to her husband has gone array in a BIG way, and now she really wishes she’d never given him a threesome in the first place.
“When she joked about "doing it again" I kinda felt something in my gut,” she wrote in a post on Reddit.
The Original Poster (OP) was really gunning for Wife of the Year after five years of marriage.
That’s why she came up with an extra-special present for their fifth anniversary — a threesome. She explained in a since-deleted post on Reddit's r/relationship_advice forum that she reached out to an old college friend, R—, to be their third. And in a lot of ways the friend was perfect; she lived six hours away, is single, vaccinated, and had only met the OP’s husband once in the past.
The OP messaged R— and told her the plan, to which “she said yes right away.”
“She said she doesn't mind the long drive as she also wants to visit some old friends in our city and besides my husband is ‘hot’ according to her which I totally agree,” the OP recalled.
The wife finally told her husband about the plan at their anniversary dinner.
“He was shocked at first then laughed and told me it was a funny joke but when I showed him a picture of R— in a naughty nurse outfit on our bed, he finally realized I wasn't joking,” she wrote.
On the drive home, her husband asked her if she was 100% sure she wanted to do it.
The OP was sure. She told him that she was fine with it and “that R— is cool and I want him to have a good time and also to spice up our marriage.”
“So yes, we did it. R— stayed the following day after brunch and left to see some friends and went home two days after.”
If the friend had just stayed away things probably would’ve been fine, but instead “R— accepted a job offer in the same company where my husband works.”
And she’s even already found an apartment in the OP’s neighborhood, which actually didn’t bother her at first.
“I was actually happy for her,” she explained.
But when R— joked about “doing it again,” the OP started to freak.
“I'm not sure if I'm threatened or worried she might try to sleep with my husband. I don't really know,” she admitted. “Can anyone please give me some advice?”
Some people advised the OP to talk to her husband ASAP.
"I can see why you feel uncomfortable," one commenter agreed. "It could be coincidence but still. Did you talk to your husband about that? Did he talk about R— after the threesome? If he doesn't care for her, there shouldn't be an issue even if she is interested in him."
"Speak with your husband immediately," someone else advised. "Tell him what she's done, that she's moving closer and has mentioned doing it again. You need to tell him that it was a one time thing and you're not comfortable with them getting to know each other."
But a third commenter wasn’t so sure that R— was being truthful, writing, "I don't think it's coincidence at all … I might be wrong, but it smells shady."
Almost everyone agreed that the wife was in a pretty big bind.
"In my opinion, this is why it’s so important to discuss this at length before having the threesome," one person commented. "These kinds of things can absolutely wreck a relationship. I know surprising him for a special event sounds fun and hot, but if you don’t have ground rules that both partners agree to, it can really mess things up. If you had talked about it before, you could have clearly communicated that it’s a one-time thing, and that any further contact between them is cheating."
"I mean what discussion should have been had?" another person responded. "'If in future she moves to our city and gets a job at your workplace then xyz must happen?' Discussion wouldn't change anything of this situation. The other girl seems to have been trying her luck but if OP and husband remain adam[a]nt that it's absolutely not on the cards then there should be no problem."
"She is trying to move in on your marriage," wrote someone else. "Cut all contact. Figure out a way to monitor your husband's communications. Can you think of any way to get R— fired? Your marriage depends on it."
Clearly this situation has brought up a lot of different opinions when it comes to what the OP should or shouldn't have done, but it seems everyone has the same feeling: R— is a problem.
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