It’s no secret that moms face quite a bit of undue judgment, criticism, and even bullying, particularly in online spaces. But every once in a while, some of the heat is warranted. In the case of Macy Navarro, who is a wife and mother of two, she got tons of backlash after admitting to doing something that proved quite controversial.
Navarro belongs to a now defunct Facebook group of women who gave birth to babies in April 2022. The group was designed for women with babies the same age to share their collective experiences — something that's been quite common for decades, and often leads to some drama.
In this particular group, Navarro, who also happened to be a group admin, shared an experience that didn’t endear her to the community like she might have assumed it would.
Navarro made a comment that ended up getting a lot of attention.
Navarro was responding to another user about having sex with a baby in the room. But she took it a step further, writing: “I don’t think it’s weird . We have sex next to baby often. Often while BFing. We side lay nurse. He is a baby and doesn’t know what’s going on. It’s always from behind and baby is in front of me.”
Perhaps Navarro thought other moms could relate or that they get down in a similar fashion, but they did not. Instead of scrolling past her anecdote, they made sure to tell her this behavior is odd.
"I think you and your partner’s needs can wait…" one user wrote in response to Navarro.
On the same Facebook post, several people simply asked, "Why?" Another user went further, telling Navarro outright that her behavior was weird.
"Having sex while your baby is in the room, and literally having sex when your child is on you feeding is [expletive] weird. I think you and your partners needs can wait until child is fed."
Navarro accused people of bullying her.
The responses to her comment were mostly negative and Navarro wrote a separate post telling people that she would close the group if people couldn’t refrain from judgment.
“This is a non judgmental group. If you make a post judging others, you will be removed. There is no place for drama here. Try me,” she wrote. Later, Navarro accused people of bullying her.
“I was bullied for choices I make as a parent. Bullying is not okay. Ever. Because of people not being able to control themselves, the group will be paused until further notice,” she explained.
People started calling CPS on Navarro.
But as Navarro’s story spread across platforms on social media, the judgment continued and according to Navarro, some people wanted to see her punished for her actions. People considered her behavior pedophilia because she essentially admitted to involving her nonconsenting child in a sex act. In another Facebook post made before she closed the group entirely, Navarro shared that people had reported her behavior to authorities.
“I love this group, but this has truly went too far,” Navarro wrote. “I am a cancer survivor. I shouldn’t have been able to have kids after but a baby after cancer was my one true want. I had Marcel and he is everything. My comment before was taken out of context. You people don’t know me.”
Navarro is not alone.
As bizarre as Navarro’s story may sound, she is not the first woman to share something like this. In 2015, breastfeeding advocate Tasha Maile, shared a similar story about having sex while feeding her child. She, like Navarro, admitted to having her male partner behind her while she was nursing her sleeping infant.
“There is nothing gross about making love,” Maile told Us Weekly in 2017. “I happen to have a family bed and co-sleep. So ‘making it work’ is something that happens. Never would I involve my children in the actual sex.”
We at CafeMom haven't been able to find what the law has to say about this particular subject — likely because most people aren’t publicly sharing these type of details regarding their sex lives — but, we want to know … what do you think about having sex while simultaneously breastfeeding an infant? Is it fair or foul?
