A mom who can’t make it to her friend’s bachelorette party is seriously rethinking her friendship with the bride-to-be. The 28-year-old woman thought her reason for not attending the party seemed pretty valid. After all, her baby is only 11 weeks old, and she is still breastfeeding him. Additionally, the bachelorette party is on Mother’s Day weekend and is four hours away from where the woman lives.
But the bride was extremely upset when she found out that her friend and bridesmaid wouldn’t be able to make it to the celebration. Now, the bride is essentially giving her friend the silent treatment.
The bride’s older sister planned the bachelorette party.
As the maid of honor, the bride’s older sister decided to plan a party for the bride “a couple of weeks ago.” But the only weekend that worked for both the bride and her sister was Mother’s Day weekend, which the sister realized could be a major inconvenience for other people. “My friend’s sister told all of us that she understands if not all of us can go,” the bride’s friend wrote in a post on Reddit.
The bride was much less understanding.
Somehow, the bride found out that her friend wouldn’t be able to make it to the party, and was “really upset” about it. The friend tried to emphasize that she really wanted to go — she’s just not able to leave her son right now, even for a day trip. The bride’s reaction seemed quite harsh. “My friend basically told me not to talk to her anytime in the near future and that she will see me at the rehearsal dinner,” she explained.
For the friend of the bride, this might be ‘the last straw.’
The friend explained that the bride is making her “feel like a bad person for needing to be a mom,” which seems unfair. “I really wish that I could [attend], but my kids are always my first priority,” she wrote. The bride’s friend also added that the bride “has a bad history of needing to remain in control.”
To make it even worse, the friend feels like the bride takes things out on her a lot of the time. Now that the bride is essentially giving her the silent treatment just because she needs to care for her son, she feels like it “might be the last straw.” She’s not sure if she wants to go to the wedding now.
Many Redditors defended the friend.
From their perspective, the bride’s friend didn’t do anything wrong, she’s simply prioritizing her baby. “You are a breastfeeding mom, and need to prioritize your baby,” one Redditor assured the friend. “It is a big ask to travel 4 hours each way for an event, especially on mother’s day weekend, and unrealistic to be away from baby for that long.”
Others suggested that the bride’s expectations seemed way too high. “Support for friends does not turn into a one-way street just because one of them is getting married,” a second Redditor wrote. “Yes, it would be nice for you to support her at her bachelorette, but it’s just not an option due to the demands of a newborn. You’re already supporting her by assuming your other bridesmaid duties. But as to this last-minute bachelorette, she needs to support you and your decision to stay home with your kids.”
Of course, it makes sense that the bride is disappointed that her friend won’t be there. However, Redditors agreed that her behavior wasn’t justified. “You can’t leave your son, and no one wants a baby at a bachelorette,” a third person pointed out. “I am sorry your friend is sad, but you can’t help that.”
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