A good relationship is one where both partners feel that their needs are being met. A lot of couples spend so much time squabbling over who does what or trying to make everything equal that it does more harm than good. A husband on TikTok, shared a video responding to a question about what his wife does for him ā and he decided to get honest.
While some husbands play a tit-for-tat game when it comes to home and family care, people are praising this man for knowing his wife’s limits. In his mind, keeping score isn’t what works for them; just showing up is.
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The video was a response to a commenter.
Chris of the TikTok account @chrisandbre.g, shared a video responding to a comment on one of the couple’s previous videos.
The question was: “Does she ever let you sleep in? Just wondering if you ever have ‘you’ days?” And Chris had a response that was honest and frankly, more than a little impressive.
He lays it all out there.
The video shows the man playing with his daughters and making breakfast. He uses a voiceover to answer the person’s question.
“I’ve gotten up with our daughters almost every morning since they were born because that’s what’s worked best for us,” he says. “But for some reason, if I share about that for long enough, someone gonna ask a variation of the question ‘but what does she do for you?'”
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In his mind, it's about what they do for each other that matters.
“Besides striking me as a really weird takeaway from a husband taking out his daughters so his wife can sleep in, that question gets me feeling like we can sometimes forget what marriage is all about,” he says. “Frankly, there are no days where my wife lets me sleep in because there are also no days where I let her get up before me,” he says, explaining that his wife is a “night owl.”
“Simply put, we have no balance when it comes to wake-up times,” he states. He also explains there are other duties that he does as a husband that his wife can’t or won’t do. “I do these things because I love her and I want to make her life better,” he explains. “I will serve her with a smile until the day that I die, whether or not she gets up before me.”
He captioned the video with his overall point: “thereās no scorecard in marriage, which is also why @Bre Giglio and I can both be winners.”
Commenters were impressed with his honesty.
The comments on the post were overwhelmingly positive, highlighting the way Chris handles his role as a husband and father. Many people found his approach refreshing.
“‘And I will serve her with a smile til the day I die’ š„ŗ 10/10 approach,” one person wrote.
Someone else agreed: “Marriage isnāt about keeping score. when both ppl give 100% to each other, no one feels like theyāre slipping through the cracks ā¤ļøitās honestly the best.”Ā
“My fiance is the same and people call him a simp… because he loves me?”Ā another person shared. “The bar is too low.”
“Say it louder for the people in the back!” someone exclaimed.
“Our routine is the opposite and itās weird ppl donāt question when the dad stays up late n mom gets up early even thou is the same thing how weird is that,” another person questioned.
Beyond that, people hailed him for having an atypical male mentality.
Others couldn’t help but point out that Chris defies the stereotypes that people attribute to a husband. Many people believe he’s a good example for other men on how to behave.
“This is beautiful.. anymore of you in inventory?” someone asked.
“You are a real manā¦..marriage is about balance not check marks of who does what,” another person stated.
“The difference between this and other men…. you said it,” someone else wrote. “You love her. not only that you probably LIKE HER. bc you CARE TO KNOW what makes her feel her best. most men don’t even like or care about their wives as people.”
“Omg this is the kind of solid, Alpha mentality we need,” another person commented. “Not ‘hunter gatherer’ trad toxicity – providing for your wife and family means PROVIDING WHAT THEY NEED. This is an example of the ultimate desirable alpha partner.”
