Bride Is Slammed for Placing Wedding Guests in ‘Tiers’ & Sending Bottom-Tier Guests Last-Minute Invites

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Planning a wedding can distort your perception of reality. Although you’re focusing much of your time, energy, and resources on a single day, the world keeps on spinning. People are living their lives. Even those who are invited to the event and happy to celebrate your love simply won’t care as much as you do.

With that in mind, it’s best for brides and grooms to try to maintain a grip on what might be going on in the real world. One bride had a hard time doing this and ended up alienating some friends in the process. 

A group of friends were all getting married and attending one another's weddings around the same time.

One of these former friends shared this tale of a bridezilla on Reddit.  The story began with a 2019 brunch. A group of friends met up to catch up with one another. Around this time, the friend group were at typical wedding age and were often exchanging invitations to weddings and attending them. But when one of the couples from the group got engaged, the invitation never came.

“The bride has always been a pretty self serving person, but she’s very charismatic and that glamour hides the narcissism incredibly well. The groom just goes along with whatever the bride says,” the person wrote.

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The OP learned they were not invited to one friend's wedding.

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During this brunch, the OP was talking to the groom and asked how wedding planning was going and “he replied that everything was pretty much sorted. They had all the (digital) invitations sent out and RSVPs had already started coming in.”

His response let the OP know that she had not made the guest list, but she was perfectly fine with that. “You do you, bride and groom,” she wrote.

As the date got closer, the bride was still trying to get people to fill seats.

But the story didn’t end there. Six weeks before the wedding, the OP did receive an invitation. “It was worded in a way that made it sound like everyone was getting a late invitation. But we knew we were the backup seat fillers,” the OP explained.

The wedding was 90 minutes away and the OP had just entered her second trimester of pregnancy, so she and her partner RSVPed no. The bride was not thrilled about it.

“The message we got back from the bride was…Not polite. But whatever,” she explained. (Later the OP shared the not so polite message: “I attended your wedding and gave you a nice gift and now you’re shafting me just because you can’t be bothered driving 1.5 hours?? You two are being so selfish,” it read.)

The engaged couple were so eager to get bodies in seats that just three days before the wedding another friend from the group had received an invitation. As if that weren’t bad enough, it came with a note asking them guest to RSVP yes immediately and a reminder that their seat was $300 so they should come with a gift of equal value.

Very tacky.

Redditors were so irritated with the bride.

The Reddit community was equally incensed by this bride’s behavior and shared how they would have responded in this scenario.

“If you tell me I HAVE to get a gift equal to the cost of my plate? You will get a second-hand copy of either Miss Manners or Emily Post,” one person wrote in the forum. “Preferably under $5, if I can find it. And I will reuse a gift bag from Christmas, and leave the price tag on. I will also tab and highlight sections on wedding etiquette, especially how we don’t throw more party than we can afford, and we don’t expect our guests to give gifts equal to or greater than the cost of hosting them, so we can make a profit.”

Another person phrased their disgust more succinctly, simply commenting, “Ick.”