Mom Hid 7-Month-Old Baby From New Boyfriend Then Lost It After He Found Out & Broke Up With Her

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There’s no doubt that dating when you have children can have its challenges. In addition if trying to determine if someone is a good person for you, you have to consider how they will get along with your children as well. Are they kind? Will they be willing and able to take on a parent role? Do they even want kids?

It can be a lot to put on a person when you’re just trying to date and have a good time. Perhaps this is the reason one young woman hid her baby from the man she was dating. When she did, he ended things. Now, that man is asking the Reddit community if he was wrong. 

A 29-year-old male Reddit user explained that he was dating a 25-year-old woman named Julia. The two had been seeing each other for about a month. “Things were going really well, we had great chemistry, and I was enjoying getting to know her. I had no real complaints. She seemed fun, cool, and like someone I could seriously date,” he explained.

Then things took a turn for the worse. 

Julia dropped the news of her baby casually.

The OP told Julia that he was on his way to pick her up to take her to a nice restaurant. She responded, “I can’t tonight, my parents have plans, and I need to take care of my kid.” The OP was so taken aback, he asked her to repeat herself. That’s when she shared that she had a 7-month-old baby.

“Now, I’m not someone who judges single mothers or anything like that, but this was the first time I was hearing about it,” the OP wrote. “We had been seeing each other for a few weeks and I had no idea she had a baby, and she had never mentioned it before. The way she said it so casually made it feel like I was the one who was supposed to just accept it, like it was no big deal.”

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‘I didn’t want to be a step-parent,’ the OP explained.

He shared that had he known about the baby, he wouldn’t have continued seeing her. The single mom tried to reassure the OP, saying her parents take care of the baby most of the time. The OP said OK and ended the phone call. Eventually, he told her that he didn’t want to continue seeing her.

“I told her I didn’t know she had a child and that I didn’t want to be a step-parent, so it was best to end things,” he recalled. “She calmly said, ‘Okay, I understand,’ and we ended the call.” But things didn’t end there. 

Julia actually didn’t understand, as it turns out.

The next morning, the OP woke up to the sound of banging on his door. Julia was outside sobbing. She told the OP she loved him and begged him to meet her son. “She said I’d fall in love with the baby and wouldn’t leave.” Eventually, the OP left his home to go to work.

When he got home that evening, his neighbors told him she was crying loudly at his door. She even introduced herself to some of the neighbors as his girlfriend. “Honestly, I’m still processing the whole situation,” OP wrote. “I never intended to be a step-parent, and I felt like she should have told me sooner. I’m starting to feel like I’m being blamed for something that wasn’t my fault.” 

Reddit users said Julia exhibited too many red flags.

The Reddit community unanimously agreed that he is not the a–hole. “Bullet dodged,” one user wrote. “She is absolutely unhinged.” The commenter also listed the numerous red flags Julia exhibited in just a month’s time: she hid the baby, showed up at his house uninvited, and expected the OP to be a father after a month.

Other commenters shared stepparent horror stories. “I got cps twice this week, because [my stepdaughter] made a false report of neglect and physical abuse,” one person wrote. “Please be careful before getting with someone with kids. Had I known I never would have went further in this relationship.”

Other people answered simply that it’s always your choice to end a relationship. You don’t have to have a “right reason” to break up. But in this instance, this decision was a pretty solid one.