A man is thinking about going no contact with his mom after she stormed off at his wedding reception. Leading up to the man’s special day, his mom did not appear to have any issues with his now-wife. In fact, they seemingly had “a wonderful relationship.”
At their wedding reception that night, however, the man’s mom “went ballistic” when the wrong song came on for the mother/son dance.
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The man's mom blamed his now-wife for the error.
In a Reddit post, the man explained that his mom had initially selected a “very romantic song” for the mother/son dance. Months before the wedding, the man and his fiancée talked to her mom about selecting another song, and the three of them “happily agreed” on an “old Paul Simon song.”
For some reason, on their actual wedding day, however, a Rod Stewart song came on during the mother/son dance. Though it seemed to be an honest mistake, the mom insisted, “it was a malicious attack on her by my wife” and told her son and his wife that they “aren’t grateful.”
The groom described the whole situation as his mom “basically screaming at me for about half of the song before storming off.”
She didn't want to be a part of group photos after that.
After the mother/son dance fiasco, the newlyweds planned on taking one last group photo with their families. Tthe groom’s mom, however, took “everyone she brought to my wedding (mostly family)” and “stormed off.” In doing so, she left her son “alone with (his) new family for the last picture of the wedding night.”
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Before the wedding, his mom had made a strange comment.
Though his mom’s behavior seemingly came out of nowhere, the groom noted that his mom “can be pretty tumultuous at times, very hot or cold depending on the day.” Additionally, just before the wedding ceremony, when the man asked his mom, “Are you excited for my big day?”, she implied that she was not excited about every aspect.
“All I got back in response was a long pause and ‘well this venue is very nice and I’m excited to see you,'” the man wrote.
When he confronted his mom about her behavior, she accused him of making a scene.
The wedding guests were staying at a resort for the man’s destination wedding. The day after the ceremony, the man tried to tell his mom that the way she acted on his wedding day “was the most hurtful and disrespectful thing that she’s ever done” to him. In response, she told him he was “starting a scene and needed to calm down.”
“At that point I asked her to leave the resort and step away from me,” the man revealed in his post.
He has thought about going no contact but wonders if he's being selfish.
The man’s mom has been widowed for about 15 years, and he is her only child. After the way she acted on his wedding day, he considered going no contact with his mom but noted that it’s “very hard” to do so as an only child.
“In a way I feel like it’s my responsibility to take care of her but it always seems to emotionally drain me,” he wrote. “Am I being totally selfish or is it finally time to set some hard boundaries to save myself?”
Redditors largely sided with the man and encouraged him to set clear boundaries with his mom.
“It’s one thing to have a moment of frustration, but she turned your wedding into her personal drama, completely disregarding your special day,” one Redditor wrote. “You gave her the chance to explain herself, and instead of taking responsibility, she doubled down and played the victim. You have every right to set boundaries, especially when it’s affecting your mental health.”
Some people suggested simply going “low contact” if going no contact feels too extreme. “No matter what issues she has with you or your new wife, there’s a time a place for everything,” one Redditor commented. “And the mother/son dance is not the place. Sometimes you have to protect yourself and pull away.”
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