Sometimes we wonder how there is so much drama in the world. Every day, it's something new. If you want the dirt, head to Reddit because it is full of it, and never disappoints if you're looking for that daily dose. A recent post has people scratching their heads, wondering how it all happened. It legit sounds like the plot of a soap opera.
A woman posted in Reddit's AITA forum asking for some advice about her current dilemma: She and her husband separated, and while they were apart, he got who she calls a "former friend" pregnant. He now has a 7-month-old daughter with the other woman, whom he wants nothing to do with. But the baby's mom wants to introduce the original poster's son to his "little sister." OP is not down with it, and the claws are coming out. Should she give in and introduce the kids?
The father has no plans to be a dad to this baby.
OP explained that her husband had a baby but isn't going to be part of her life. Even so, OP is pushing for a lawyer to iron out paternity and whatever responsibilities he might have. While they figure everything out, the infant's mother wants OP to bring her 3-year-old son to meet the girl, but OP doesn't understand why.
"The girl's mother has asked me if I want to meet her and introduce our 3 y/o son to his little sister but I've said no." she explained. "My husband's family on his mother's side have been very accepting of the baby and her mother so they've been pressuring me to meet her since she's technically my stepdaughter and they think I need to be willing to help foster a relationship between her and my son as we all know my husband isn't going to do it."
Here comes the drama.
Hubby's family is all in on this new baby and thinks OP is being selfish to keep her child away. She contends there will be no long-term relationship, so what's the point?
"Now everybody thinks I'm some awful b— who hates a baby when I don't. It also doesn't help that my husband has cut off financial help to that side of his family because they made me cry which has only made them hate me more," she wrote. "We had a good relationship before all of this so I feel crap and I'm wondering if I'm an a–hole."
Girl, this is your husband's problem, not yours.
It's not like OP and her husband agreed that he would have a baby with this other woman so they could intentionally create one big, happy family. Redditors feel like OP doesn't need to have anything to do with the baby because none of it is her responsibility. If her husband is bowing out, his other child shouldn't be involved either.
"NTA," someone pointed out. "It's not your responsibility, it's your husband's. Though if he isn't going to step up and be a dad to this little girl I'd really debate whether I'd want to be married to such an a–hole."
"NTA," another person wrote. "The baby represents your husband's betrayal of you. You're trying to work it out, and that's fine. His desire to be or not be part of the baby's life is up to him. But the baby and her mother have NOTHING to do with you or your son, and you are not obligated to interact with them if you don't want to. Your son may want to meet her when he gets older and that should be between him and his father. Ignore your silly relatives."
But, OP, maybe you should be a bit kinder.
No, this woman is not her friend anymore, and she doesn't have to fix that. However, at some point, her husband might change his tune and step up, and her stance now might just complicate things later. Some Redditors feel like she is being uncool.
"YTA, just get a f—ng divorce," one comment reads. "The kids can't help who their parent are and YES they are siblings whether you like it or not. Get a divorce and move on with your life."
"YTA," someone else commented. "You straight up say she's his daughter. You are keeping your son away from his sister. You don't have to love the situation. But you do have to deal with it. You either accept him back, with EVERYTHING that happened in the interim, or you don't and let it play out in Court. What is the best scenario for your son?"
This situation is beyond complicated.
The bottom line is, OP's husband has another child with someone else. No, they weren't exactly together when it happened, but if the other woman was a friend and he messed around with her, the Reddit community thinks it sounds like he is a bit of a snake.
While they were separated at the time, the fact that he not only fathered a baby with another woman while they were still legally married, but slept with someone she considered a friend, and not just a random stranger, is more than a little questionable.
Lots of Redditors think she should kick him to the curb and move on. Good luck! This is a doozy of a situation.
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