My 5-Year-Old Sister Was Furious When My Boyfriend Proposed; Now I Think She Needs Therapy

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Sometimes, when a couple decides to get married, a jealous ex will appear out of nowhere and try to sabotage the relationship. It can make things hard on the couple who just wants to enjoy this happy time. We've also heard stories of jealous siblings who wish they were the ones getting married and cause all kinds of drama. It's never fun when someone comes along and tries to ruin your relationship.

A woman recently posted in Reddit's AITA forum about her sister's jealous streak and how she has made life a nightmare since she and her fiancé got engaged. The original poster's sister seems to have a pretty big crush on her fiancé and doesn't want OP to marry him because she wants to spend the rest of her life with him. There's one big problem with her plan: she's only 5 years old.

Now OP says that unless her family gets the child therapy, she's not allowed to participate in her wedding in any way. Is she taking it too far?

OP's sister loves her fiancé.

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OP explained that she and her sister, Evie, are very close, and the child loves her fiancé, too. When Evie found out that he proposed to OP, she was distraught.

"She started crying and hitting me because she wanted to marry him and if I marry him she can't. She refused to speak to me for almost a week and now she's mostly ok but she gets mad at me and starts crying and hitting me any time she sees me kiss him."

She wanted Evie to be a flower girl, but now OP doesn't think that's a good idea.

OP thinks Evie needs therapy.

The bride-to-be claimed her family has tried everything to change Evie's behavior, but nothing is working. She feels the only solution is therapy, but their father doesn't seem interested.

"She goes to time out right when she starts hitting and kicking, she loses toys, she's left outings early, and my fiancé refuses to play with her after because he doesn't play with anyone that hits. This is not normal 5 year old behavior. There is nothing else we can do," she wrote.

OP wants to ban Evie from the wedding unless she gets therapy, but her family disagrees. Who is the jerk?

Some worry there is something deeper going on.

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One Redditor suggested OP's fiancé have a conversation with Evie.

"It is very important that your fiancé tells her that he would not marry her," someone suggested. "Even if he did not marry you. He could also explain to her that he is going to be her brother and that he is looking forward to having her as a sister. He has to do that, not you."

Another felt that Evie thinks of OP's fiancé as a loving male role model and is confused. "Not to play psychologist or whatever, but I feel like her being angry about not being able to marry your fiancé and her dad not being involved are absolutely connected," the commenter wrote. "Your fiancé sounds like he's more of a positive father figure than her own dad."

Redditors felt like OP is justified in wanting Evie out of the wedding.

Even though she is only 5, a lot of Redditors feel like Evie should know better, and if she can't behave, she shouldn't be at the wedding.

One person wrote: "Did everyone in here eat crazy pills? A child becoming violent over a crush on an adult is not normal, nor should it just be ignored. If dad won't discipline her, himself and teach her to keep her hands to herself even in the face of big emotions, the 5 year old does not need to be in attendance. NTA."

Another person agreed and commented: "NTA Her persisting in this violent, aggressive behavior is not normal for a child. In any evenr, it is 100% unacceptable at a wedding. If your parents refuse to get her at least a check up to test if there's a reason for her violent behavior, stick to your rule she won't be allowed at the wedding. No 5 yr old has the attention span to enjoy a wedding ceremony anyway."

"If your flower girl was allergic to all flowers you wouldn't have her be the flower girl," someone else pointed out. "This kid is allergic to your relationship. Either her parents need to talk it through with her and get her over her issue or a professional therapist can do it, but it is very reasonable to not invite the tantrum-o-matic to be front and center at you classy quiet and EXPENSIVE event."

There is a lot to figure out.

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Redditors warned OP that Evie isn't her child, and their dad needs to deal with this situation. One person suggested firm boundaries.

"Your dad should be dealing with this," the person wrote. "It's also not typical behaviour and she's clearly not respecting boundaries. Getting therapy is a good idea but also making sure your family keep firm boundaries with her. Ensure she knows that screaming, hitting etc is NOT acceptable in the slightest, and there will be punishment if she keeps doing it."