Being married for a long time is something many couples aspire to; it’s a sign that you picked the right person and are making your marriage work. But for a lot of couples, the longer they’re together, the more they realize they may not have made the right choice. A wife was fed up with her husband’s inconsiderate behavior, and she finally reached her breaking point during their anniversary trip when he ate her dessert. But it wasn’t really about the dessert.
The couple has been going through a difficult period in their marriage.
According to the wife’s post in Reddit’s AITA community, she and her husband have been “fighting a lot.” They have even spent the last few months sleeping in separate bedrooms. So when her husband decided to surprise her with a trip for their 25th wedding anniversary, she imagined it as a “rekindle our marriage” trip. Shortly before they left, their relationship was improving a bit, and they “were even intimate a few times.”
So she was excited that they’d have a good time together and have time to reconnect.
Sadly, it seemed he didn’t really put as much thought into the trip as she’d hoped.
Her husband took her to places they’d been before, and although she didn’t mind completely, she was still disappointed. He didn’t even pick a restaurant for their anniversary dinner; instead, he made her decide. After dinner, they ordered dessert to go, and she got a slice of banana cheesecake.
When they got back to their hotel, she tried initiating sex, but her husband wanted to eat his cheesecake instead. “The cake is really sweet,” she wrote. “I take a bite and tell him it’s too rich, I don’t want anymore.” After having a “quickie,” they fell asleep because it was late and had been a long day.
What happened next was the final straw.
“I wake up, get some coffee and have every intention on eating my slice for breakfast but I can’t find it,” she explained. When she looked, there was an empty box and another box with one bite of cake. “He said ‘it’s right there’ with a chuckle. I’m getting mad at this point because he’s grinning and I just want my cake,” she wrote in her post.
“He says ‘no, it’s there, I got hungry last night and ate the other one but the one we started last night is still there.’” According to the woman, the bite left was “not even a full bite. At that point, the wife was fed up and let her feelings be known.
”After caring for this man, being his maid, mother, and sex object for 25 years, raising his kids, caring for his home, his finances, making his freaking doctor’s appointments and I can’t even have my freaking anniversary cake,” she fumed. “As I told him I deserve someone who will not only not eat my cake but will protect it and keep anyone else from eating my cake. And I am done being grateful for crumbs.”
People were pretty much on her side.
Although some commenters tried to admonish her for not communicating about wanting to finish the cheesecake, many pointed out that her feelings had nothing to do with cake. They affirmed why the wife was fed up with her husband’s bad behavior.
“Its not about the cake. But he will definitely tell everyone it was about the cake,” one person wrote.
Another commenter replied, “To be fair, he believes it was about the cake. That’s a large part of the problem.”
“Definitely not about the cake,” someone else chimed in. “It’s about all the times that you asked for him to meet you at some basic level of love and support and he did not meet you. Do you want to continue to spend the rest of your remaining years with someone who barely tolerates your existence?”
