Woohoo, you’re engaged! There’s just one problem: you really really hate the ring. Unfortunately, this is a somewhat frequent thing that happens and there’s no way to broach the topic with your partner that doesn’t feel sort of awkward.
On TikTok, one woman is sharing the way she told her now-husband that the ring was not her style — but some people thought she was in the wrong for not liking the ring in the first place.
The drama all started when TikTok user @beefinnagain shared a story "that no one really asked for."
In other words, the story of how she told her husband that she didn’t like her engagement ring. “Everyone who I was close to knew that I wanted a halo [ring],” Bee explained in the video from March 24. So after her proposal, a lot of people were surprised when she had a ring that was a different style.
“Specifically my mom, she was like ‘oh my gosh, how are you feeling?’” Bee recalled.
Bee said that she was "so excited" and "so happy to be getting married," but she couldn't lie when her mom asked if she liked the ring.
“I just bawled,” Bee admitted. “I was like, ‘I hate it. I don’t know what to do. It’s not what I wanted. It doesn’t have a halo around it.’”
Her mom tried to calm her down and pointed out that she could upgrade at her five-year anniversary. Which was something the TikToker could agree to.
“I’m just not going to say anything. I’m just going to shut my mouth for now,” she vowed at the time.
But when she went back to school that Monday, it was hard to keep her promise.
“Everybody at school was like, ‘Oh my gosh, congratulations. Is it everything you wanted? Do you love your ring?’” she recalled. Which, understandably, was a little uncomfortable for Bee — so she lied.
“Yeah, oh my gosh it’s so great. I love it. It’s beautiful,” she said. “And then I proceeded to go to my room, every single time, and cry.”
After about a week of all these well wishes Bee was "over it."
And despite her mom’s good advice, she felt like it was better to come clean.
“So I texted my husband and I was like, ‘Hey, we need to talk this weekend,’” she recalled. When it was time for the big convo, Bee tried to break it to him gently.
“I was like, ‘Hey, I just wanted to talk to you about the ring. I love you a lot and I love that you put in effort to pick this out and this isn’t something that needs to be addressed right now, but I really just want to be honest with you and transparent: I really don’t like the ring. It’s not what I wanted and after a week of people asking me about it, it’s been really hard to fake liking it,” she told him.
"His response was so nice," she noted.
He told her it wasn’t a big deal and said they could just return the ring for another one.
“I was shook,” Bee said.
So the two went out shopping together and Bee was able to pick out a ring that she really liked.
“He took it so well,” she wrote in the video’s caption.
You know who didn’t take it well? People in the comments.
"When the ring is more important than the guy … I feel super bad for him," one commenter wrote.
"I couldn’t imagine telling my partner I hated a ring they chose for me. I’d appreciate the effort and wear it proudly," someone else wrote.
While someone else put it this way: "I think it’s ungrateful … he chose this ring for u."
But other people stood up for Bee.
"This is called a mature relationship and if someone can’t do this then you shouldn’t be getting married," wrote one commenter.
"These comments do not pass the vibe check. Y’all saying it’s better to LIE FOR YEARS, rather than utilizing a return policy," another commenter pointed out.
"I made my husband let me pick mine out," someone else exclaimed. "And so many people think that is wrong, but if he is gunna spend so much money on a ring… you want to LOVE IT!"
Which is exactly how Bee felt about the situation.
"It’s literally THOUSANDS of dollars," she wrote later in the thread. "If it’s a style that doesn’t suit me, I won’t wear it and he deserves to know that so he doesn’t waste his money."
Which is pretty practical if you ask us.
