Christmas is an incredibly stressful experience, especially for moms. Trying to make holiday magic for our families can make a mom feel completely overwhelmed. And if we don’t have help? That makes it even worse. One mom on social media shared that because of how her husband deals with the holiday, she doesn’t even want to celebrate anymore.
Her admission brought out a lot of women who have similar husband problems. Husbands and holidays don’t often mix, leading many of their wives to feel extreme frustration.
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The woman was at her wits' end.
“My husband does nothing towards Christmas. He doesn’t buy a single present, card, food or drink, wraps nothing, doesn’t do any meal planning or make anything either,” the woman wrote in an online forum, as reported by Australian site Kidspot. She proceeded to say that all her husband does is buy a tree and put the lights on it.
There's one major problem ...
As much as her husband may hate the holiday season, the woman’s kids absolutely love Christmas. This creates a major dilemma for the mom, which leads to relationship friction.
“Every Christmas he gets angry at me for getting stressed because I do everything,” she explained. “If I show any of my stress in any way he gets shouty saying we shouldn’t have Christmas.”
She decided to do less and see if that helped.
In an attempt to make things a little less stressful, she decided to pare back. “We don’t go anywhere or do loads of things. I try to keep the budget down so we don’t spend a lot,” she explained.
Despite this, she still does things like sending small presents to other loved ones, making a Christmas cake, and making stockings for their now adult children.
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It still feels like too much.
Despite pulling back what she does, it’s still too much for her. “I’m starting to feel resentful and pretty much hate it myself now. I don’t do anything nice and Christmassy because it adds to the stress,” she admitted. She was clearly at a loss as to how to move forward while maintaining some holiday spirit.
She isn't the only one with a holiday-hating husband.
Commenters chimed in to let her know that she is not alone. “My husband has written some cards,” one person shared. “My husband is pretty useless,” another person added.
But thankfully, some people had ideas on ways to make things better. One person suggested she “Take a step back.” Another person’s advice was clear: “just quiet quit.”
Hopefully, she listens and finds her Christmas spirit again.
