Getting kids excited about a wedding where they are going to have to adopt a new stepparent isn’t easy. So when one dad’s son finally got into the swing of things after he took on the role of being the “flower boy,” it should have been a cakewalk, right? Well, wrong. According to the dad, who shared his story on Reddit, his wife-to-be wanted to almost immediately veto the idea of her soon-to-be stepson being a flower boy in her wedding.
The dad shared in his post that his fiancée said “it would be weird to have a flower boy” as opposed to a more “traditional” flower girl in their wedding. But, the dad explained, if being the flower boy is what his son needs to get excited for the ceremony and the very big change of gaining a stepmom, then he wants to support his son.
The dad wants his son to be the ‘flower boy’ to help get him excited to have a stepmom.
The dad explained in his Reddit post that even when he said he would take care of what his son would wear to walk down the aisle, his fiancée noted that she would be worried about what it would look like. In picking the outfit himself, the dad is taking one extra task off his fiancée’s plate, but she doesn’t seem to see it that way because she does not support the idea of a flower boy.
“My fiance says we shouldn’t teach my son that everything is about him,” the dad wrote in the post. “I absolutely agree. However, it is weird for kids when a parent gets remarried. He hasn’t engaged much with the idea, and this is the first thing relating to the wedding he showed any excitement about.”
Although the dad posted to see if he was being unreasonable or not, other Redditors questioned whether he should even get married in the first place.
“Things don’t magically get better after the wedding,” one person commented on the thread. “She seems to really dislike the son and has already started planting seeds with ‘not everything is about him.'”
Someone else replied, “She’s going to want her own child, then blame the boy for wanting some attention or loving the baby too much and then he has to go live with his mom. I normally don’t think I can predict the future but it’s so obvious.”
Another person provided some sage advice for the dad and groom-to-be, writing, “It sounds like your wife has issues with your son and you should get to the root of that before you marry her.”
The dad also wrote in his post that his fiancée said her family would feel “uncomfortable” with a flower boy. It’s unclear, however, if she has another child in mind for the role or if this is a nonnegotiable she just won’t let go of when it comes to the wedding.
“Does she have some little girl she wants to be the flower girl who is related to her? Why can’t he be both?” someone commented. “Start a new trend. I would be concerned about what kind of stepmom she will be. If her family will be uncomfortable……too bad, then don’t come to the wedding. Ick.”
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