Getting married and joining your partner's family is an exciting time in many people's lives. Most women hope to be welcomed with open arms, love, and support. But some women end up in complete shock when they find out how people in their partner's family really feel about them. It's enough to make some people second guess who they're choosing to spend the rest of their life with.
One Reddit user recently opened up about issues she's been experiencing with her future mother-in-law and how the MIL feels about her two daughters. The Reddit user shared that she has two daughters from a previous partner who died of cancer, which was understandably devastating for her family and his.
Eventually, she ended up meeting her new fiancé, who she called "Jack" in her Reddit post. She said Jack absolutely adores her two daughters, but it seems his family does not.
Although Jack adores her daughters, his mother seems to have some issues with them.
The original poster shared that despite how hard she has tried with her FMIL, she still seems to have a bad view of single mothers. OP claims that her FMIL is judging how low her income is in comparison to Jack's, who is a doctor. She also shared that her FMIL has excluded her two daughters from various family events on several occasions.
OP then shared that her FMIL invited her and her fiancé on a trip, but said it was adults only.
"She said it's because it involved going to the bar and doing activities that aren't child-friendly. She told me I needed to leave my daughters with someone before Jack and I could come and I immediately had my sister come and stay with them at home," the OP explained.
When they got to the airport, OP was met with a surprise.
She said she and Jack arrived at the airport where they met her FMIL and future father-in-law, but when her future SIL sister-in-law arrived, she was surprised to see she had her three kids with her. She asked the FSIL why she would bring the kids on an "adults only" vacation, and her FSIL was quite confused.
Her FSIL's husband told her that her FMIL lied to ensure she didn't bring her two daughters on the trip.
Her FSIL then began to yell at her husband for saying anything and the OP stormed off. She decided that after the turn of events, she had no desire to go on the trip. She left and canceled her flight ticket, leaving Jack and his family to go on their vacation without her.
When Jack got home, he said that she was wrong for storming off and canceling her flight.
Despite Jack caring for her daughters, it was clear his mother does not. "I told him she excluded my daughters but he said that his mom is entitled to her feelings and I shouldn't expect to spring the girls on her all the time when she still doesn't consider them as close as her other grandchildren," the OP shared.
Many people told the woman to "run" far from this marriage and relationship.
"Jack knew that she lied from the beginning," shared one commenter. "He is alright with this behaviour. And he also wanted to make a vacation without your children! He doesn't adore them as much as you think."
Another Reddit user said they were the child of a step-family that constantly excluded them.
The Redditor said that it was a painful experience.
"My step mum and her parents constantly excluded me and my brother…," the person shared. "It hurts that they did that but it hurts more that my dad allowed it…. OP…don’t ever let your girls know or allow them to become aware that they are considered less than."
Other people pointed out that if the OP has another child with Jack, it'll be even worse.
Other commenters pointed out that if OP and Jack end up having another child together, her two daughters will feel even worse, as they'll see that her FMIL treats them differently, simply because they are not blood relatives.
Many added that the OP should stand up for her children.
Despite her walking out on the trip, many Reddit users said she needs to sit down with Jack and tell him that she and her daughters are a package deal and if he cannot defend them all together, that it won't work out between them.
Better to know now than after the wedding.
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