The weather isn't the only thing getting hot lately. We rounded up 50 sexy or sex-filled things that you can do easily — well, depending on the kids and time — and without much prep at all. Yep, that's right: This inspirational sexual bucket list of sorts can help any couple keep things cayenne-pepper hot in the sexy time department.
It's time to take a step (or two) out of your comfort zone and let loose! Especially if it's been a long time (and marriage) or mom and dad are just looking for something new to try. Everyone will enjoy trying something from this list. And who knows, it might even become a regular occurrence.
Whether it's utilizing a random household item, getting out of the bedroom, or trying something completely bizarre-sounding, it might just work for you and bae. Ready for the big list? Get ready to find something to try tonight.
First Kiss
Kiss like you did when it was one of the very first times. It obviously feels amazing and makes for great foreplay, but kissing has scientifically proven benefits that pretty much serve as a jumpstart to getting even more hot and heavy in the bedroom, or kitchen, or anywhere. Catch our drift?
Just Breathe
Breathe together, holding and hugging each other while you do it. It sounds simple. Don't we have to breathe anyway? But there's mindfulness in slowing down and really listening to each other's breathing and breathing alone. Maybe it will turn you on and you don't know it. Give it a try. What's the best that can happen?
Seductive Dining
Eat seductively in front of one another, and not in a silly, middle-schooler eating a banana kind of way. Slow down and watch your partner's tongue lick an ice cream spoon, or chocolate off of their lips and encourage them to watch yours. No one said the food couldn't be dripped elsewhere (just keep it on the surface).
Anticipation
See how long you can stay turned on without taking any of your clothes off. If anything, making one another wait for the main event should leave each of you hungrier for more, aching for what's next: clothes coming off, kisses up and down the neck, and … other places. Sometimes the best orgasms are built up first.
Fully Clothed
Dry hump with your clothes on. Or even just with underwear. This one can be part of the anticipation game. You're so close to the end game, but not close enough. It's like a little game of tease, with only the mind left to wonder what it'd feel like to feel the other person's full body, skin on skin.
Let Down Your Hair
Ever shudder when you feel something graze your body ever so sligjhtly? You can feel the skin and each hair on the body tingle. Give your partner that feelings by carefully and slowly dragging your hair all over his body. Ask him to put his head in between your legs and have his hair brush against your thighs.
Windows to the Soul
For at least one minute, both of you stare into each other's eyes. It's both sexual and intimate. They say eyes are the windows to the soul. What does that soul desire? In that moment, it should feel like you want to be as close to the other person as possible. It is scientifically shown to create an even stronger connection.
Secret Admirer
Set up email accounts using aliases. Then send dirty emails and pictures to that account. Think of it like erotica that's written by each of you but with exactly what you want to do to the other person and what they want to do to you. It's a little more old school than sexting, becaues it feels a little NSFW.
Take It All Off
Play a game of striptease. Because it's literally a tease. It allows you and your partner to get in a state of mindfulness, and appreciate every single inch of each other's bodies. Plus, it's sexy when someone makes themselves vulnerable to us. Can't hurt to do a little moves nearby too along to sexy music, whatever genre that is to you.
Storytellers
This is really throwing it back old school but love lovers, or in this case, erotic ones, stand the test of time for a reason. Collaborate on a piece of erotic writing or storytelling. You write/recite a paragraph, then your partner does the same. Go back and forth until you finish the story and when you are apart, whip it out.
Keep the Gloves On
Buy a pair of nitrile gloves and give your partner a gloved hand job. A different texture from the plastic or ribbing in the grips can stimulate the skin, and other body parts, in a new way. Trust us, it feels different. Just make sure the other person isn't allergic to latex or any of the chemicals in those gloves.
Masquerade
Let's be honest, as teenagers watching Cinderella Story with Hilary Duff we all ached in our bones to have been at a dance, in a mask and beautiful gown, with a sexy Prince Charming wanting to find us and kiss us. Well, it's not too late. Find a mask online but maybe ditch the ballgown. The result will be much better than just a kiss.
Different Hair, Different You
Hair is sexy, but the best part is that there's lots of ways to wear it, as well as lots of wigs to put on to change things up. One of the ways to spice things up and create a full-fledged fantasy for your partner is to wear a wig. Long and blond, curly and jet black, or wavy and purple. It's a fun and noncommittal way to change things up.
Use Protection
Wearing a condom is a no-brainer if you're engaging in sexual acts with a non-monogamous partner. But hear us out. Even if you're married or in a long-term relationship, trying new kinds of condoms, heck, even trying the female condom, can maybe transport you both back to the early days of the relationship, and leave you wanting more.
Beads to Everywhere
Beads are part of the sex toy canon for a reason. Their shape lends for a fun time as it's able to stimulate parts of the body that other shapes just can't as well. Use a string of pearls (plastic beads will do just fine) and run them over his penis. Or use anal beads to engage in anal play, on one or both of you.
Slip on the Banana Peel
OK, we don't really mean slip on a banana peal, but definitely don't throw it away. Use the warm, gooey mess to have some safe fun (on the outside of the body of course). How? Pleasure him with a banana peel. Try warming it in the microwave for five seconds for warmer, happier times.
Caution: Extra Slippery
This is part of the sex 101 playbook but it needs to be said: Lube. Use all of the lube, as much is needed. There is no shame in wanting an easy entry because no one wants to feel pain when they're supposed to be feeling pleasure. Some can have tingly effects, too. Others have cooling or warming feelings. Take your pick.
Save Water, Shower Together
Speaking of lube, grab some silicone lube and get it on in the shower. Warm water is a turn on even when one is alone is the shower. It just feels so good as the water warms and massages the body. Add a partner to that, some kisses and foreplay, and maybe sex. Boom! Sex life steamed up, literally.
Blind Affection
Blindfolds aren't just a sexual cliché. There's something sensual and sexy about shutting down one sense to heighten another. Also, being blindfolded makes someone vulnerable, which is a turn on for many. Blindfold your partner or be the one blindfolded and take turns exploring each other's bodies and keep them guessing where you'll go next.
Grab Your (Some) Honey
Props are always a good idea. Find three things in the kitchen (like a spatula or wooden spoon, honey) that you can play with sensually. Spread some warm honey slowly over your honey, or their outer parts, and slowly lick it off. For the naughtier types, use the utensils for some consensual and fun booty slapping.
Finger Painting
We didn't forget what kind of list this is. Adults can finger paint and it can be sexual. Have at it finger painting each other's bodies. Or find edible paint for intimate places. It can be a fun set up for a paint night date night that takes a sexy, hot turn. It's not only fun but the feeling of the paint on the skin can feel good, too.
Rock Around the Clock
Rock around the clock, that happens to be where the clit is — the most powerful and nerve-filled part of female sex anatomy. With your finger, go clockwise from 12 on back, and counterclockwise. See what time feels best. Maybe it's multiple times, and don't worry about being late. "Take your time" definitely applies here.
Reenactment
Talk dirty talk to one another and explore each other's fantasies. Then see if you can find some porn (that is ethical!) that matches those fantasies. Or share with them your favorites to watch. Whether it's low-key or BDSM, find something that'll get you both excited and ready to explore each other's bodies.
Performance Art
Masturbate for each other. Cheer, hoot, and holler for your lover. Watching you pleasure yourself can be a major turn on for your partner. And there's a certain sexy pressure and pleasure that comes from having a private audience of one. Let your mind wander and allow them to help you out in the process.
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Book Club
Some people may find watching porn the optimal way to get turned on and in the mood, but reading sexy narratives can be just as affective. Read each other an erotic story from a sexy book, magazine or, heck, Reddit thread, and let your mind imagine what's happening, and try it on your partner right after.
Adult Board Games
Play a board or card game but change the rules to make them sexy. For example, if you're playing a game of War, instead of taking the higher value card from the other person, have them take off an item of clothing when that happens, or when you pass Gg during Monopoly, a sex act needs to occur. The best part: everyone wins.
How Close Are You?
Try a board game designed to inspire monogamy. OK, that sounds boring, but this game is anything but. It was created to light up that sexy spark between those in monogamous relationships, and according to one of CafeMom's previous pieces about it, "help recapture that spark without spending tons of money on sex toys, lingerie, and/or counseling? There's this board game — Monogamy — created by a married duo with kids who kept this little secret to keeping it hot between the sheets from us for far too long."
On the Road
This one needs to be done legally — we don't want anyone getting in trouble — but take it back to the high school days of having steamy fun in a car. Have sex in your car, in the front, or back seat, even if it's parked in the garage or right outside the house. It'll be a little cramped but here's some sex moves to choose from.
Squeeze Tight
Squeeze your pelvic floor muscles around something or someone. Doing so can help stimulate an orgasm alone or during sex with a partner. It's all about contracting the muscles and stimulating the vagina in a way that leaves it wanting more. Do it before or during sex for optimal pleasure.
Pillow Play
Figure out a new sex position using pillows. They're comfortable to sleep on but also great for propping up hips for a new angle or putting between the thighs as you lean to the side for other things. A lot of people prop them under their lower backs in missionary position. Or use it to muffle the moans.
For Brushing Teeth & Other Things
Toothbrushes don't have to just be used for brushing teeth. Turn on an electric toothbrush — use them on his, or her, nipples. Or rub the vibrating tool over the body and feel the pulse everywhere. Just no sticking it inside anything — there are other toys for that that are safe for those activities.
For Him
Use any vibrator — on him, in the area known as the perineum, between the anus and the balls. This area is a sensitive area for men especially, and paying it some attention will have him hot and heavy. He'll appreciate other body parts of his getting the attention and he'll be primed to return the favor right back.
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Sexting
Have a sexy chat, either by video or text, and yes, even if you live together, do it from separate rooms. Partners who are glued to their phones can kill the sexual mood in a relationship but when played right, like with sexting, it can actually help. Send a sexy text to your partner and have them engage in a convo that serves as virtual foreplay.
Slow & Steady Wins the Race
Have a contest to see who can come first, or who can hold out longest. Everyone loves a good friendly competition but it'll help both of you stay engaged in the fun and maybe get some laughs and extra amazing-feeling techniques used in the name of winning that the other person uses on you. It's another game where everyone ends up winning.
Dress Up, Dress Down
Pick out your partner's outfit and dress them up before you undress them. It's an activity that's engaging the senses for both of you (putting on and taking off clothing) but gives each person a chance to see their partners in a different way and light that sexy spark again. Emphasis on the taking off clothes part.
Let Loose on the Dance Floor
Buy a wireless vibrator and go out dancing, and let your partner control the remote. Even if dancing isn't an option, just take it for a spin while driving around or out to dinner. It'll be a sexy secret only the two of you know, and will handle later.
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Rise & Shine
Morning sex. It's a tale as old as time that people seem to have strong feelings about, but we're on team morning intercourse. Have sex first thing in the morning. Many people with penises tend to be hard in the morning already. Quickly rinse the mouth of morning breath and enjoy the new day getting twisted in the sheets.
Heightened Breath
See how high you can bring your sex energy through breathing. Breathing deeply is said to help with orgasm. The Sex Ed website explains how: "When your orgasm begins, try your best to continue the breath and relax your entire body into it. It may feel counterintuitive at first, and the urge to bear down is real, but try to come back to that open mouth belly breathing and keep relaxing through it. This allows the waves of sensation to travel through the nerves in your entire body so you experience a full-body orgasm. It’s all about the breath, my babes!"
Spank Me
Get kinky — try light spanking or flogging. According to an article in Men's Health, spanking can stimulate nerves in the vaginal area that get women hot and heavy. Specifically, the publication noted that a 2017 survey by sex toy company Lovehoney found that "70 percent of women and 61 percent of men are turned on by spanking during sex."
Built for Two
Try a vibrator built for two. Vibrators, as people with vaginas know, feel absolutely incredible and can amplify orgasm to a whole other level. But they don't have to feel that alone. Share the vibes, literally, with a partner and be in sync.
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Outdoorsy
Make love outdoors. Not only will it make you look super adventurous if it comes up during a drinking game with friends, but it adds a layer of excitement to sex. It's also romantic if there are stars involved. Plus, who doesn't love doing just about anything in the great outdoors? Definitely pack a blanket though.
Cheap Date
They say to date your partner to keep the spark alive for a reason. Going on a date can bring back that feeling from the early days where things were fun, hot, and unexpected. Take things up a notch by renting a room at a hotel for a little change of scenery. Getting turned out may be easier without hearing cartoons in the background.
Working Girl
Sex work is work and it should be destigmatized. But this sex tip is for the people who have certain sex work kinks or may like a (consensual) power dynamic to role play. Paying your partner for sex could be one of those things that feels dangerous and out of character, which may be just what is necessary for a good sesh.
Can't Sit Still
Give, or get, a lap dance. This move is relatively low stakes to do, since one doesn't need to dance well or professionally to sway their hips to some sexy music in the background and tease their partner with their body. That's what it's really about. Just pick two or three moves and we're sure it won't take too long for the rest.
Middle School Dance
Slow dance like it's the first time, but not that first awkward time. Unless, of course, awkward turns you on. Either way, the intimacy that comes from holding each other close and moving to music, that may put you both in a mindset depending on the vibe, can jumpstart the beginning of a good, sexy time. It's like foreplay.
Role Play
Write down some fantasies and put them in a hat. Then pick out a fantasy and act it out. Include a list of props in your fantasy. It's a great way to break the ice and get in the mood without hopping straight into things. It can be funny or serious or just special. It gives your partner a chance to express what they want.
Rub Me the Right Way
Touch is one of the Five Love Languages and we can see why. But it's also one of those love languages that can translate into something sexual. Give each other head rubs or a massage to slowly get closer to one another. The head is a vulnerable spot but feels amazing. It sets the mood, too.
Aromatherapy
Massage each other using a hot wax candle. Scents can and have helped with people's libido as smell is a sense that is strongly connected to feelings and memories. Use it to each of your advantages. It can't hurt but it will smell and feel amazing.
Leave the Lights On
Leave the lights on. Get naughty. If you feel extra frisky, leave the blinds open, too. People may look, but that is part of the thrill. It's scary and vulnerable but your partner will see every part of you and you of them and you can just experience each other's bodies on a deeper and sexy level.
Feed Me
Make a meal out of aphrodisiac foods. Feed it to each other, or eat the food off each other. It can be tasty on top of it, but also it allows you and your partner to explore, touch, and lick each other's bodies in new ways, and with purpose.
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