A bride thought her mom would plan her wedding for her, but two months before the ceremony was meant to take place, she found out that her mom had done “essentially nothing” in preparation for her special day. The drama all started because the bride said trying to plan a wedding would make her too anxious.
Because she knew this would be a problem, she had a simple solution: She and her fiancé would have a courthouse wedding instead of a traditional ceremony.
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Her mom didn’t like the idea and offered to plan a wedding ceremony for her.
On Reddit, the 27-year-old bride detailed the conversation she had with her mom. After informing her family about her plans to have a courthouse wedding instead of a traditional wedding ceremony, her mom said, “hold on a minute. Why not just do a small wedding?”
The bride told her mom that planning a wedding would make her “anxiety go into overload,” so she would rather not. In response, her mom said, “Well, then let me plan it.”
The bride assumed that her mom would then plan the wedding.
Since her mom volunteered to plan a wedding ceremony that she herself did not even ask for, the bride thought that her mom would follow through. The bride explained that she didn’t exactly leave everything to her mom.
“I’ve sent her ideas I’ve had of what I might want on Pinterest with no response, I made the guest list, picked out the color theme, sorted the wedding party, pretty much all the important things on my end so I haven’t just been completely hands off,” she clarified.
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However, her stepdad called her out for not helping her mom.
In spite of sharing some ideas with her mom (and not even wanting a wedding ceremony in the first place), the bride’s stepdad told her she wasn’t doing enough. Two months before the date of the wedding, her stepdad told her, “If you want this wedding to happen, you need to start pitching in and helping your mom.”
After her stepdad said this to her, the bride learned “that essentially nothing else has been done” to get ready for the wedding ceremony.
Upon discovering this, the bride said they would stick to the courthouse wedding plan.
The bride was a bit “upset” and informed everyone that she and her fiancé would have a courthouse wedding instead, but this still made her mom upset. According to the bride, her mom proceeded to start a new group chat with the family to tell them “how much of a disappointment” the bride is.
Confused by the situation, the bride wondered if she was ‘justified in being upset.’
In an event group on Facebook, the bride wrote that they would no longer be having a wedding ceremony “due to personal circumstances.” Her mom, however, perceived this as the bride “slandering her all over Facebook.” The bride asked Redditors to weigh in because she was “genuinely unsure” about the situation.
While most people didn’t think the bride was totally at fault for what happened, some people told her that she and her mom “both really dropped the ball.”
“It sounds like your mother bit off more than she could chew, and your stepdad is blaming you for it,” one Redditor observed. “You might want to pull the plug now on the ceremony. You could tell your mother you and your fiance truly appreciate her offer to plan the wedding, but it’s clearly too much work for either of you, and that the goal is to marry the person you love, not put on a show and throw a party.”
Some Redditors could understand why the bride assumed her mom would plan the wedding.
“You literally said you didn’t want to plan a wedding because it will trigger your anxiety,” one person responded. “So, mom said she would plan it. Of course you would assume she’s planning, she said she would. She shouldn’t have offered if she couldn’t do it.”
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