When you vow to take your partner in sickness and health, are there limits to that? One woman is wondering just that. After having surgery that meant she had to follow a severely limited diet, she discovered that her husband had secretly eaten all of the food she had prepared for her recovery period. On top of that, he wasn’t helping her with her recovery, leaving their tween son to come to her aid.
Naturally, the woman feels overwhelmed and incredibly disappointed by her husband’s lack of support. But when she called him out, he tried to imply that she was the one in the wrong. So she took to Reddit to ask others for their opinions about who was right or wrong in this situation.
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The woman is currently recovering from major surgery.
After explaining that she had undergone surgery on her “stomach and intestines almost 2 weeks ago,” the woman explained that as result, she was on a strict and entirely liquid diet. “If I stray from the diet, it could cause severe complications and possibly lead to death,” she said. The most solid food she can have is pudding.
“There’s not a lot of variety to choose from and I’m not having a good time AT ALL. Plus I’m still having pain from the procedure and some nausea and I’ve had to go in for IV fluids and iron twice now,” she revealed.
She knew that she would need to meal prep before her surgery.
“I made meals for myself for every stage of the diet and with specific macros/ingredients to meet my needs and comply with my other health problems – for example, I have celiac disease so everything has to be gluten free. I also follow a low sugar/low carb diet so everything had to comply with that as well,” she explained.
She added that she made meals “SPECIFICALLY requested” by her husband and son to eat while she was recovering. “I stocked up on snacks they liked and asked for. We also have a fairly strict budget right now, so I made everything from scratch to save some money. About 1/4 of everything I made is in the freezer attached to our fridge for convenience sake, the rest is in the deep freeze in the garage.”
“So most of the meals in the house freezer are gone so I went out to the garage to restock. ALL of the meals I’d made for myself are GONE. Just completely emptied out. I’m really upset because I have no energy right now to make more – living off of liquids and having anemia will do that to a person. My diet is (hopefully!) progressing to soft solids tomorrow, so I was really excited to be able to eat some of the food I’d made,” she explained.
She confronted her husband about the missing food.
She went on to reveal that she asked her husband about the missing food and “he blamed it on our son first.” Since her son has no interest in all of her special meals, she knew that he was likely lying to save himself. After she asked again, her husband admitted to taking her food.
“He’d been taking my meals to work as his lunch because he was ‘too tired to make his own lunch’ before work. He has always made his own lunch up until now. He also said he was ‘bored’ with the lunches he makes and my food provided ‘variety,‘” she wrote, adding that she is “EXHAUSTED.”
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Her husband's behavior could end their marriage.
“When he admitted to taking my food, I just started crying. He hasn’t been much help after surgery, my son (11yo) has been doing all the lifting for me and helping me with chores and cooking. When I started crying, he got disgusted and told me I was overreacting and being a baby. He refuses to make me new meals, he refuses to help me make new meals, he says it’s been almost 2 weeks and I should be able to do stuff on my own,” she shared. “At this point, I’m seriously considering divorce. I mean, my son and I are already doing everything on our own already. And I know my kid won’t eat my diet food. Am I overreacting?”
She then added to the story writing, “I just found out he’s raided my non-perishable food stores in the pantry. It was mostly sugar free jello and pudding, stuff I can eat on the liquid diet. Pretty much everything is gone, except for some sugar free orange jello.”
People are saying that the husband ate her food on purpose and she should divorce him.
“You did not over react,” one person wrote. “Actually you didn’t react nearly as strongly as I would have. I I don’t even have words for how awful that is. Knowing that you need this food for your health and survival and he eats it for lunch? Honestly he doesn’t care about anyone but himself. I know that people on this sub are quick to be like you should break up with them… But like you should divorce him. He blamed your son to boot? I don’t know he just doesn’t seem like a good person to me.”
“There are so many red flags in this post,” another comment reads. “Leave this man child. You are not his parent- you are his partner!! He should want to be there and help you while you’re going through this but instead he’s making your life more difficult? Hell no.”
“He just showed you how little he cares for you,” someone else wrote. “Instead of helping you, he’s hurting you, being a terrible role model to his son, and disrespecting you. You deserve better!”
Another echoed: “You’re not overreacting. You’re under reacting. Your husband is a disgusting pig. He knew that you had made those meals for your recovery period. He’s lower than the dirt under my shoes. Start planning your exit. This man has no redeeming qualities.”
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