With weddings, emotions can run high during the planning and actual day. Saying “I do” comes with logistical challenges that can be complicated by family members trying to make it about them. One groom, however, recently kicked his mom out of his wedding reception after she brought his ex as her plus one.
The Redditor took his plight to the AITA subreddit to gauge whether he overreacted. In his thread, the original poster (OP) detailed the whole ordeal. But in the end, Reddit users all agreed who the real a–hole was in this situation.
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The OP explained the situation leading up to his wedding.
On October 19, the disgruntled groom took to Reddit’s Am I the A–hole forum to vent about his plight. The OP (30) and his new bride, June (29), started dating about three years ago, and evidently, his mother hated her.
“My mother has never really liked June for a couple reasons, the main one being the fact that June didn’t let my mom push her around,” he explained in his post. “She kept firm boundaries which I really admired and she even helped me do the same. My mom hated this, calling June controlling and wishing I hadn’t broken up with my previous girlfriend Margo, who my mom loved.”
Although the OP dated Margo for five years, he said she was “very controlling and manipulative.” He ended the relationship with the support of his friends and sister. His mom, however, was “very upset” about their breakup.
Interestingly, his mother didn't 'freak out' when they announced their engagement.
“When June and I announced our engagement my mom didn’t freak out, which was weird considering my mom hates June,” the OP shared. “She was very calm but I just took it as she was finally accepting this and so I didn’t think much of it.”
In fact, everything went smoothly until the wedding day itself.
Things went downhill when the Reddit user's mom showed up with his ex.
“After the ceremony, me and June went to take pictures and then met back with everyone we invited to the reception which was pretty big,” the OP explained. “When we got there, My sister and June’s best friend/maid of honor ran up to us in a panic. Before they even said anything I spotted it. My mom was at the table with my dad, my dad’s wife, and Margo.”
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That's when he kicked his mom out of his wedding reception.
Although the OP said he wanted to “freak out,” his new wife, June, kept him calm.
“I walked over, pulled them both aside, and simply told them to leave,” he shared. “My mom tried to explain Margo and I are soulmates and June is just in the way of true love but I wasn’t hearing it. I didn’t care. Just got my best friends to escort them out and I returned to the party where luckily, after a few moments, I was able to relax and enjoy it.”
After his and June’s phone-free honeymoon, he discovered “hundreds of texts” from several family members.
“They all think I was an a–hole for kicking my mom out of her only son’s wedding,” he wrote. “For the record, she was there for the ceremony but apparently was really upset she was kicked from the reception…Some think I could have just ignored Margo and didn’t have to ‘freak out.’ A few others, including my dad, think I should have just kicked Margo and let my mom stay but after the stunt my mom pulled, I didn’t want her there either.”
The OP concluded, “I’m starting to second-guess myself since everyone is really mad. June and my sister are on my side but I fear my dad may be right and I should have just let my mom stay and made Margo leave.”
In the comments, Reddit users resoundingly agreed.
Folks in the comments came to a unanimous decision: He was not the one at fault.
One person wrote, “Kicking Margo out would not have been enough. (Side note, who tf goes to their ex’s wedding with his mom? psycho.) your mother actively tried to sabotage your wedding. She brought an abusive ex & then said your new wife was in the way. That’s appalling.”
The person continued, writing, “She deserved to be kicked out and your family should acknowledge that she clearly didn’t want to be there. She wanted to hurt you and your wife.”
“Your wedding, your rules. If there’s one day you get to be selfish with your partner, it’s this day,” someone else pointed out. “And what your mom did was manipulative (and f— Margo for going along with it). Maybe your mom and Margo should start dating each other since they have things in common like being controlling and manipulative.”
“Your mom crossed a line by inviting your ex, Margo, to your wedding reception without permission. This was disrespectful to both you and your wife, and you had every right to ask them both to leave,” yet another person wrote. “Your wedding day was about you and June, and your mom’s actions undermined that. While some family members may be upset, you were right to protect your boundaries and the peace on your special day.”
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