Wife & Mom Likens Husband’s Porn Addiction to ‘Sexual Abuse’ So She Made Him Stop Watching

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While many don’t like to admit it, adult entertainment is a part of many of our lives. Many of us at some point stumbled across a VHS tape, a cable TV program, or later, free videos on the internet and used them in both the single and partnered seasons of our lives. Still, as pervasive as pornography is, that doesn’t mean it’s an innocuous force in our lives.

It can warp our perceptions of what real-life sex is, especially since most of the porn out there prioritizes male pleasure at the expense of women. And then, there is the real possibility that it can become addictive.

One TikToker says learning that her husband watched porn was 'truly unbearable.'

One wife and mother on TikTok is sharing the ways her husband’s porn addiction almost cost them their marriage. Jourdan Kehr says she speaks about her husband’s usage of porn as a way to warn others about the secrets spouses may be hiding from their partners, the New York Post reported.

Jourdan first learned of her husband’s alleged problem when she saw something on his phone: an old video of two people having sex. She described the discovery as “truly unbearable.”

Jourdan considered her husband's viewing habits as a form of infidelity.

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“I couldn’t stop shaking and I felt like my soul had left my body,” she told NeedToKnow.co.uk. “I didn’t know how to go on and I didn’t know how it was possible for any human to survive being in this much pain. It made me physically ill for months.”

While Jourdan acknowledges that finding other people attractive is normal and natural, lusting or fantasizing about them sexually, she calls, “unfaithful.”

Jourdan says her husband was watching porn twice a day.

The couple, who have been married for nine years, share two children. But even with all of that history binding them together, Jourdan said she “lost all faith in her marriage.” She explained that her husband began watching porn as a teenager, and then started using it as a stress reliever.

Eventually, it became a coping mechanism. What was once a habit that happened a few times a week, became something that happened daily and then twice a day. Eventually, Jourdan’s husband sought help for his addiction.

Porn was starting to affect her husband's daily life.

“In the process, he lost two jobs and we’ve both lost weight as we hadn’t been eating or sleeping well,” she added. “He suffered a lot of guilt.”

The couple worked with therapists, support groups, and Sexaholics Anonymous to save their marriage. And five months after the initial discovery, Jourdan says they’re in a much better place.

Jourdan believes porn can be a form of sexual abuse.

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Now, Jourdan’s message is that she doesn’t want to shame people who view pornography, but rather educate them on the potential harm it can pose. But other videos on her TikTok seem to take a stronger stance. In one video, she likens watching porn to sexual abuse.

In a video of her staring at the screen, the text over Jourdan’s face reads: “She didn’t consent to your lies. She didn’t consent to your manipulation. She didn’t consent to your infidelity. If she had known all of the s— you did behind her back, she never would have given you her body. That wasn’t consent. It was sexual abuse.”

While many people support Jourdan’s message about the dangers of porn, most people in her comment section believe linking watching porn to sexual abuse is taking it a step too far.

“Girl delete this,” one user wrote. “Stop trying to add things that aren’t sa into sa. it’s takes away from real victims.”