I’m Livid My Husband Was Watching TV & Wouldn’t Help Bring in Groceries When I Was Struggling

No marriage is a fully equal partnership. But it should feel like both people are doing their fair share of housework. If you live in the house, there’s no reason not to pull your weight. So often, you hear about a woman who is frustrated with her husband because he doesn’t do his fair share of household chores.

One woman on Reddit has seemingly had enough after her husband failed to help her bring in groceries. She reached out to see if people believed she is justified in sharing her anger with him instead of keeping it to herself.

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The wife had already done the hard part of grocery shopping.

“Today after work I shopped for dinner and stuff we need,” the woman explained in the Reddit AITA forum. “Hubs knows I’m on the way home. It’s freezing out. I come up, no light on porch, door locked,” she continued, adding that he knows she didn’t have her house key.

When she knocked on the door, her 7-year-old child answered the door while her husband was laying on the couch. She shared that he didn’t get up to help, even though she had “tons of stuff.”

The woman struggled to get everything in the house.

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The woman wrote that her husband asked their daughter to close the door, but she told him she wasn’t finished bringing in the groceries. Despite this, he still didn’t get up and help. She claimed her fingers were so cold. “I have to drop my stuff I can’t even hold tightly to put down easy,” she explained.

“He just looks at me smiling. I try hard to contain my anger and he asks about my face. I’m not even looking at him at all because I know I’m mad and I’m not trying to pop off or have an attitude,” she said.

Her husband made no attempt to help once she was in the house.

Since he was lying down, the wife asked if he was feeling alright. He told her he had been watching television. “Now he’s asleep while I make dinner after being at work allllll day. Stuff like this is common, but maybe I’m being a jerk?” she asked.

“He didn’t work today. Kids have only been home since 4 pm (it’s 6pm) so he was gaming and stuff all day. Did a little laundry which was left on the table not put away,” she added. The woman then asked if her anger was “justified,” and if she should confront him. “Or should I wait for my anger to subside first like I do 99% of the time?” she wondered.

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Everyone assured her that her anger was totally justified.

One person weighed in: “He sounds completely useless. Is he? Does he bring anything to the table other than stress & more work? It’s time to stop stifling your anger & give him a taste of it. He’s showing you that you can do everything yourself, there is no need for him anymore.”

“Waiting for your anger to subside 99% of the time is why you’re at this point – and I am not blaming you at all, but pointing out that his selfish and childish behavior will continue if you stuff it down,” another person shared. 

“Wait for your anger to subside some, but this isn’t a one incident thing – it seems he doesn’t appreciate all you do and he is lazy af,” someone else wrote. “Sit him down, hand him a damn chore chart like a kid since he is acting like one.”

“I do think that you should wait and formulate what you need to say, but also, it needs to be said, and firmly,” another person suggested. “And it’s not just about the groceries, it’s that you seem to have a spare child in the house and no partner.”

The woman did end up confronting her husband.

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The woman edited her post to share the interaction she had with her husband after confronting him. She explained that she shared with him all the issues she had with how he handled the situation, and what she would have done differently.

“He just said ok after all my comments and that was it. Now he’s pouting and won’t eat the food I made. Just went to bed left me to do bedtime alone,” she wrote. “If I just went to bed and left him to do things alone he’d be PISSED and wouldn’t hesitate to tell me as much. So many things are ok for him to do but not me.”

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